Hey bloggers! Today’s post is more like a little chat. I wanted to talk about something that I’m really passionate about when it comes to planning your wedding. I’ve been watching “Say Yes to the Dress” for about two weeks now. I had randomly seen the show here and there but I never really watched it until recently. In the beginning, I was fascinated with Kleinfield. I’ve been there before and I’ve helped a friend find her wedding gown there. I found it fun and exciting and glamourous. As I’m watching this show on repeat, I noticed I started feeling indifferent. I’m all for a gorgeous dress but I have still not come to understand how brides are willing to spend $10,000 or more on a wedding gown? It started to make me sick and I had to stop watching the show.
I really believe that wedding gowns are probably the most expensive dress you will ever purchase in your lifetime and while you want to make a big statement you can absolutely do that without spending a ton of money on one dress that you will more than likely NEVER wear again. Before I continue this post, I just want to make it clear that these are strictly just my opinions and they do not in any way, shape or form promote judgment on any bride whatsoever. I also included some Gown inspiration. All gowns are under $1,000.
MY DRESS JOURNEY:
When It was time to go dress shopping, I didn’t have a set budget. My mother offered to purchase my dress. That alone was amazing. My dress journey began at Macy’s Bridal Boutique. My experience wasn’t the best. First, I did not want to tell them my budget because I honestly wasn’t sure how much my mother could afford. I know in my heart I could not bear to watch her spend over a $1,000 and I was perfectly content with that number. My goal was to find a silhouette that I loved and go from there. The sale associate insisted I give her a number, so I threw out $1500. My mother’s eyes were as wide as could be but being the best mom ever she did not complain. She actually asked the sales lady if we could use Macy’s coupons and I wanted to crawl under a rock and hide. I see now that it was an honest question. Maggie Sottero Kensington Gown, $99
I ended up trying on about 6 to 7 dresses. None of which I was “in love” with. At one point, I saw this goregous gown while wearing another dress. Pointing to the dress with excitement, I asked the lady if I could try that one on. She told me “No, I’m not letting you try that on because it’s out of your price range.” I kept going until I found one that I “liked” around $1750. We were told that we would get 15% off for being a Macy’s cardholder. My mother really liked the dress and offered to buy it for me. I told her that it was only the first store and that I wanted to keep looking. The sales lady pressured me so bad to buy that dress. She kept insisting that the dresses took 8 months to come in and that I had to make a decision by the end of the month. I left a little disappointed, not happy and not excited
Maggie Sottero Karena Royale Gown, $999
My next stop was at David’s Bridal near my hometown. I was randomly driving by and asked my mom if she wanted to check it out. I picked out about 6 more dresses. I really loved the women at David’s Bridal. They were so sweet and so welcoming. They never asked for a number. They only asked for the styles and materials that I preferred. I fell in “love” with three dresses even though I wasn’t ready to make a decision yet.
Wtoo Cyprus Gown, $999, wtoo.com
A trip to a NYC Bridal Consignment Store with my bridal party was my third stop. The store carried tons of designer dresses that were sample sizes and since I’m very thin, I thought why not. I made an appointment and the searched continued. The associates were nice and asked for my budget. I told them $1500. They gave me the tiniest rack to look at. I must of looked through that rack a million times it seemed, hoping that there would be a larger selection hidden somewhere. I tried on about 4 dresses. None that I was in “love” with but that I thought were nice. My problem with this store was even though the dresses were “designer” they were all kind of dirty! It would have taken me twice as much money to have them cleaned and then tailored than to just buy a brand new dress. I left empty handed, never to return again. Before lunch with the girls, we headed to David’s Bridal in the City so I that I could show them the dresses that I had I tried on with my mother. The store was all booked and couldn’t get me into a fitting room so my bridal party being the crazy and fun ladies that they are, pinned me to a corner and made me try on my “favorite” one with my clothes on. I could not stop laughing and feeling terrified at the same time.
Melissa Sweet Gown Style MS251007, $950, David’s Bridal
A few weeks later, I went back to David’s Bridal near my hometown and eventually picked one of the three dresses that I fell in love with. Since I can’t show you a picture because my fiancé does read my blogs, I will tell you it’s very me and I absolutely love it! OH and guess what!!! It was on sale for $937. I know a lot of people think the more expensive the dress the better it is. I just don’t feel that way.
Melissa Sweet Gown Style MS251005, $950, David’s Bridal
The best dress is the one that makes you feel beautiful. The one that makes you feel like a bride. The one that makes you feel sexy or a princess whichever you prefer to be. The one that you can picture walking down the aisle only to fall in love with your fiancé all over again. SO for all you brides out there that feel like you need a to buy a dress that is going to put you in debt because you have to wow the crowd, DON’T DO IT! At the end of the day, your wedding is a party. A party to celebrate your love; THAT should be your first priority and not just what you wore…
Until next time…
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